You are in the middle of a messy divorce and your ex-spouse won’t even return your calls, let alone keep you as the beneficiary of a life insurance policy. How can you make sure that your children are still protected by the family’s life cover in the event of a divorce?
If one spouse supported the other financially before the divorce, any existing life insurance policy should be made a part of the divorce settlement. This is done by ceding the breadwinner’s life policy to the ex-spouse – essentially making them the owner of the policy. As the owner, they will be copied in on any correspondence relating to the policy and if monthly premiums are not paid the breadwinner can be held in contempt of court.
Note that the life insurance policy number will be listed in the divorce order. A termination date should also be noted (for instance, when the children turn 18 or 21).
Remember that if both partners made a financial contribution to the costs of child raising, the life insurance clause of the divorce order could work both ways. Both parties could be obligated to continue paying their premiums because the cost of raising the children would be too high without either income.
If your life insurance policy does not form part of the divorce settlement but you would still like to keep it in place to benefit your children, it is possible to set up a trust that only comes into effect after your passing. You can state the rules of your trust and nominate trustees in your will. The rules can allow for a monthly pay-out to cover your children’s expenses or for the money to be held in trust so your ex-spouse can approach the trustees for any expenses that arise.
You can appoint a mixture of family members and professional third parties (such as your accountant or lawyer) to the board of trustees bearing in mind that professional trustees will draw a state legislated fee for their contribution. Your ex-spouse can also act as one of the trustees if you wish.
It’s worth noting that trusts are expensive to run because of the professional fees and annual financials and audits they attract. This will eat into the capital that could otherwise go towards your children’s upbringing. It also makes it difficult for your ex-spouse to access the funds that your children will need for general expenses, as each request will have to be put through the trust. At the same time, the board of trustees will make sure that your life-insurance pay-out is allocated according to your wishes and that your children are protected.
While you will have to decide what is best for your children, it is worth remembering that no matter how acrimonious your divorce your ex-spouse probably still has your children’s best interests at heart, so consider carefully whether you want to severely limit his or her access to the funds.
Don’t let the upheaval of a divorce impact on your children’s future. When deciding on the best course of action to take with your life insurance policy consider their needs rather than whether or not your ex-spouse stands to benefit.